why arranged marriages are turning out to be a financial settlement

The day started with a feeling of hatred in my heart a hatred towards people that demand for dowry. Why this dowry is becoming the most common and the most important topic in a marriage. When you say that your son is getting married very few people ask you how is the girl and family.many ask you how much dowry you are getting .Whats wrong with these people?When a girl is well educated and earning a good salary what is it that makes them demand for dowry.Oh God I am losing my temper writing this.

Now what I say is that the guy X is being rated for his education,height,complexion ,salary and so and is being decided with a price tag and how come he doesnt feel a sting.Is he not ashamed to be evaluated and ask dowry .Does it occur to him that how low he will be in the view of the girl who if the price quote is matched will become his wife.Where are his morals? where is his common sense? what did he learn with his so called high education?

Ok now comes the grooms parents quality assurance.We love our sons.We will give whatever we have equally to our sons.so each of this brothers will get this much share and blah blah and finally the reasoning for demanding dowry

1. This dowry part is just for spectators or relatives because if the grroms parents say no the bride's parents didnot give any dowry they think the bride is from a lower income level which doesnt look good.
2. This dowry will be like a security deposit for the couple who will only eventually get to enjoy the money or whatever.
3. Just because the elder daughter in law brought some and if the younger daughter in law doesnt bring that much there will be a superiority complex for the Elder and Inferiorty complex for the younger.

I really admire these people for justifying thier unethical behaviour in such a polished way.What's wrong with the society.It all comes down to this.There is great pleasure in getting something for free that is why even the super markets offer buy 2 get 1 free stuff.It is pretty simple human psychology .And even the parents of the bride ,first they should think that the groom is really a perfect match for the bride and if they want they can give any thing happily to thier child, not forcibly give it her on demand by the grooms just for some family status or social status or whatever crap people think around.
As long as girl's father thinks that his child will be happy in the grooms place if he gives dowry there will be no end to this demands and there will be more and more dowry harrassment cases and there will many more cases registered and there will be more divorces because the father who till then thinks that dowry would save his childs marriage from any problems will realize that dowry itself is foundation for all this happenings and eventually he thinks his child is better safe with them than with the greedy people.
As long as a person gives a chance for others to decide what he is and what he wants and what he has to be he will never be happy.And unhappy people doesnt maketh a happy society.
To all the fathers out there please dont make a marriage sound like a financial settlement either by taking dowry or giving dowry
To all the girls out there please dont think if you give dowry you will be treated well .That aint gonna happen.Try to find a man who is beautiful at heart than at his appearance.Dont give a chance for others to decide what is your worth.If you are confident on the inside your parents will be confident looking at you and that makes a huge difference to the people who look at you and they dont dare to speak whatever comes to their mind.
To all the bachelors out ther please dont degrade yourself and get a price tag on you with a MRP (maximum retail price) .Please respect women and try to appreciate them.