The grass on the other side is always greener!!

I see a bunch of people who can put in all the efforts to know whats going on in the other persons life. What is it that makes these persons so curious? Do they really miss something in their lives or do they really have everything in their lives ? Stop wondering and start living your own life. For me of all the many things my pri 0 would be spending quality time with my kids and for that I can cutdown my social activities. And I truly strongly believe in happy families making happy society :) ! And if you hope that I have something to feed your superiority complex then let me tell you I am not the right one for it.

People just don't get it when they say " I totally get it " when they have not been through it. Why do we make friends through out our lives because in every mode of life we need some one to understand what it is like to be there. When you find a person that can actually know what you are going through you feel comfortable and happy to have them in the journey of your life. Some friends try to comfort you but often they might intrude into that corner where you have hidden your self to make yourself a better person in sometime. When the frequency doesn't match you will give up that friends and I think it's totally ok to let go coz this time is so valuable to you at this point to revive yourself  and avert the crisis than to feed their complexes. Friends don't pick on you. Picking on insecurities and brushing them off might make them feel intelligent or satisfy them that they did everything possible but  really that's to what friends do especially when you don't ask for help of any sort from that particular person.

why arranged marriages are turning out to be a financial settlement

The day started with a feeling of hatred in my heart a hatred towards people that demand for dowry. Why this dowry is becoming the most common and the most important topic in a marriage. When you say that your son is getting married very few people ask you how is the girl and family.many ask you how much dowry you are getting .Whats wrong with these people?When a girl is well educated and earning a good salary what is it that makes them demand for dowry.Oh God I am losing my temper writing this.

Now what I say is that the guy X is being rated for his education,height,complexion ,salary and so and is being decided with a price tag and how come he doesnt feel a sting.Is he not ashamed to be evaluated and ask dowry .Does it occur to him that how low he will be in the view of the girl who if the price quote is matched will become his wife.Where are his morals? where is his common sense? what did he learn with his so called high education?

Ok now comes the grooms parents quality assurance.We love our sons.We will give whatever we have equally to our sons.so each of this brothers will get this much share and blah blah and finally the reasoning for demanding dowry

1. This dowry part is just for spectators or relatives because if the grroms parents say no the bride's parents didnot give any dowry they think the bride is from a lower income level which doesnt look good.
2. This dowry will be like a security deposit for the couple who will only eventually get to enjoy the money or whatever.
3. Just because the elder daughter in law brought some and if the younger daughter in law doesnt bring that much there will be a superiority complex for the Elder and Inferiorty complex for the younger.

I really admire these people for justifying thier unethical behaviour in such a polished way.What's wrong with the society.It all comes down to this.There is great pleasure in getting something for free that is why even the super markets offer buy 2 get 1 free stuff.It is pretty simple human psychology .And even the parents of the bride ,first they should think that the groom is really a perfect match for the bride and if they want they can give any thing happily to thier child, not forcibly give it her on demand by the grooms just for some family status or social status or whatever crap people think around.
As long as girl's father thinks that his child will be happy in the grooms place if he gives dowry there will be no end to this demands and there will be more and more dowry harrassment cases and there will many more cases registered and there will be more divorces because the father who till then thinks that dowry would save his childs marriage from any problems will realize that dowry itself is foundation for all this happenings and eventually he thinks his child is better safe with them than with the greedy people.
As long as a person gives a chance for others to decide what he is and what he wants and what he has to be he will never be happy.And unhappy people doesnt maketh a happy society.
To all the fathers out there please dont make a marriage sound like a financial settlement either by taking dowry or giving dowry
To all the girls out there please dont think if you give dowry you will be treated well .That aint gonna happen.Try to find a man who is beautiful at heart than at his appearance.Dont give a chance for others to decide what is your worth.If you are confident on the inside your parents will be confident looking at you and that makes a huge difference to the people who look at you and they dont dare to speak whatever comes to their mind.
To all the bachelors out ther please dont degrade yourself and get a price tag on you with a MRP (maximum retail price) .Please respect women and try to appreciate them.

Take it easy :)

chill out
sit back and relax
have fun
Enjoy life
Dont let anything get to you
nothing is so important than your happiness
Take pride in all the things you do
Guilt kills all the fun.Do not let it.
Life is short and each and every moment is precious
live in the present.Dont let the past spoil your present.
stay fit stay healthy and freak out!

My Princess

She is turning into a bit of Drama Queen now.she knows very well what ticks her mommy off and what excites her.

Watching her mom talk to her grandmother frequently she understood mommy cant live without calling grandma so she asked her mom "Hi Mama ,give me your phone".when her mom says "No,this is mama's phone and you cannot use it".or this she immidiately reacts saying "Mama give me phone,want to call ammamma and say hi?".I her sense it is dont you want to call grandma.At times she becomes so manipulative that people around her just get startled. she is 29months old now.

Can't ask for more!

Sravya made me a better person from the day she entered my life. She made me more tolerant, submissive, agile, easy going and above all happier. Looking at her I feel this much is enough for this life.My needs,wants and everything became so minimal. The way she talks ,she runs around and hugs me tell me that I am doing my job right! When she cries and becomes cranky she tells me you can do better.My little wonder takes care of a baby, feeds her cuddles her . Not only that she dances to her favourite tunes, sings Baa Baa rhymes, enjoys watching her favourite sheep shaun doing all the tricks. Builds towers, scribbles on her doodle, casts a magic spell on her Dada and grounds him . I just love the two little magicians perform their tricks. She wakes him up first thing in the morning tickles his nose and puts a smile on his face.She very well understands that her dad goes for work an d when you ask her she confidently says "uffis" . She knows all the animals, makes all the barnyard sounds, loves books and above all loves to cook and feed people.Loves water and kids.

She talks a lot. She repeats whatever we say.Most common words are uh-oh and wow . She doesn't go to sleep when she has friends around even if it is her naptime .she makes sure she entertains them before she falls asleep. Cleans up the mess she does, pickes her dress ,loves to be all dressed up . She is sweet and overall she is our beautiful child ,a precious gift of God and we are ever grateful to the almighty for everything He gave us in this life.

Educated Girl!

Its a very common behavior among many of us and I really wonder why it is that way? You can only enjoy what is yours and nothing comes without effort. It may be wealth,credibility or prestige, all the development in life only comes with effort, except the interest that you pay on your loan or sins that you do which do not need any effort to grow.

Today I heard something that is so disturbing. Parents take enormous joy in rising their kids and look upto them when they grow up. They feel proud of their success.When it comes to a girl child there is a little bit of wavery attitude towards this. Can you believe it, there are still people supposedly educated people who think a girl gets married easily if she doesn't earn much or is less educated? Education gives consciousness about environment and work provides the skills to survive in any kind of environment.Work can be any kind of work whether you are paid or not paid . But to get paid for doing the work is always awesome.

And wedding should not be considered something that hinders this process. Its a major thing that you get a good partner to lead the rest of your life but it is equally important to have a person who admires what you are and respects your place of interest. A girl should be proud to have a degree besides her name and happy to enjoy her financial freedom. No one including her parents can take this away from her. I really hope for a better world where she will be treated as an achiever but not a loser. When a kid is brought up with appreciation she will be confident and reach greater heights. I admire my father who says that girls should be independent. kudos Nannagaru.